There is a strong expectation here that commenters don’t just post and run. Next time you come back to the site you should look at who is replying to you. This is common courtesy to the person you spoke to and to the wider community, but it’s also how you can see if you have a moderation note.
If there’s one thing that pisses off moderators, it’s having to waste our time chasing things like this up. I’ve just put someone in the ban list after they didn’t reply to my first two comments asking them to fix their username. I will see their comments in Trash once they realise what is going on, and then we can sort it out, but I’m not going to spend a lot of time chasing up people who are dropping comments and not paying attention. I want to be writing posts instead or out in the garden.
Speaking of usernames, there is a bug that means on some devices the Username or Email fields are easy to make a typo in. When this happens, the system treats you as a new user and holds your comment back for manual release by one of the mods. My estimate is that this alone is taking a sizeable chunk of moderator time to sort out, so please check the fields each time you comment if you are not permanently logged in.
As for checking who has replied to you, on the main site there is a Replies tab on the right hand side. If you click on this you will see all replies to your comments. This is true on the Desktop version on mobile devices too (you can switch to this version at the bottom of every page). It’s not available on the Mobile version, so my suggestion is that you switch to the Desktop version once or twice a day (or more if you are commenting a lot) and check.